Desire Session Secret Sauce

Why work with desire?

A few weeks ago in the newsletter and on the podcast, we talked about how our bodies contain entire worlds, whole landscapes filled with beings that engage and interact through story logic, nature logic, the logic of encounter.

Desire is what pulls us through both our inner and outer worlds. It’s a nudge or a thread that helps us know what is ready to be transformed, and how our inner landscape wants to change. As our inner landscape changes, our outer landscape changes. This shifts where we put our attention if we’re looking to change things in our lives.

If there’s something you want to change in your life, making space to listen to your desire will do a lot of the work for you. You’re tapping into a force that’s bigger than your small will or your brain or your “shoulds”. When you listen to and work with your desire, in my experience, you get a huge burst of energy.

Instead of trying to muscle your way through your fears and all the reasons why whatever you desire is wrong or scary, you can just have conversations with those parts of you and watch them change through a process that feels natural and un-forced. Things want to change. Desire wants to evolve.

You can absolutely do this on your own; the podcast covers a lot of tips for getting into your body and being in relationship with your desire. Why do this in a session with me?

Turns out, the desire session secret sauce is having someone else hold a space of total approval for your desire. It was a delightful surprise for me when I first started these sessions to find that tapping into the specific desire energy in other people completely lights me up. Even if it’s a desire that I might not want for myself, or that I might judge out in the world on a day I’m feeling petty— when I feel the desire resonance from someone, I’m 100% on board and excited. It’s taught me deep compassion for other people and respect for the unique brilliance of their paths.

When I tune in to desire in this way, I’m able to hold absolute trust in the wisdom of your desire and your genius ability to figure out how it wants to express. This activates something; it’s literal magic that allows things to change. Because things change in the presence of love and approval. You can do this for yourself too— self-approval is important—but it’s really helpful to have someone else hold it for you in moments where it feels hard to get there on your own.

What’s the session process like?

I work intuitively and guide you through this process of interacting with your inner landscape. There’s no set format or direction or place we need to end up. It’s RELATIONAL. It’s a mirroring of what you’re doing inside yourself. But generally, we…

• Look at the desire you’re coming in with: how are you mentally holding it? What are your beliefs about it? We dive into the body, find where your desire lives and how you’re holding it, and look at what parts come up in response?

• Let the parts express, interact, and engage. Crazy alchemy happens here! You get to learn why your parts act the way they do.

• Especially in multi-session work, we also discuss how to express these parts/desires in your life, and the different ways that can look.

There is literal magic in these sessions, but I’m also not promising that it’s all sunshine and rainbows. I also don’t think that sunshine and rainbows is better than giving yourself space to sit with some grief or pain, maybe for the first time.

Whether you explore this on your own or with me, happy adventures!